Coping With Grief

Hey guys, happy new year to everyone out there! Sorry I haven’t been writing much here recently, I really need to post more frequently.

I spoke about coping with grief on my Instagram story a few months ago and it was the most viewed story I’ve ever had! I received hundreds and hundreds of messages from people telling me their stories and the different ways they learnt to deal with grief after a loved one passed away.

I’ll list a few of them below, just to help anyone out there that may be struggling and always remember that time is a healer. It might not seem like it at the moment but over time it does make coping with grief a little easier. Having to deal with grief is one of the most difficult things we will go through in our lives, you will feel empty and there are a few things to help make it a little easier.

1. Talk to others – it is very important to talk to your family or friends and explain to them how you are feeling. Talk to them about your loss and sadness and although you won’t expect them to have answers, it will help to have someone to listen to. There are lots of support groups to contact if you feel like talking to s stranger about what’s going through your mind. ALWAYS talk to someone!

2. Keep a routine – make sure you look after yourself. It’s good to have a daily routine and it will avoid extra stress if you stick to this, just simple things like getting up in the morning and keep yourself busy. The busier you are, the less time you have to think about everything and avoid making major changes if possible.

3. Take some time to yourself – it’s important to remember that family members or friends may also be grieving at the sad loss and sometimes tempers can rise between each other and the stress levels are high, that’s why you should take some time out and just even go for a walk. Everyone needs their own space to think and simple things like walking, go for a drive, go to the cinema, can all help you coping with grief.

4. Cry – sometimes all you feel like you can do is cry and that’s normal. There has been lots of talk about this recently, especially when it comes to men! Always remember that it is not a weakness to cry and I find it hard to understand how people would even think that! It’s just like a valve, helping you release the thoughts in your head. It can feel good to let it all out and it’s always good to get it off your chest instead of holding it in which may build up more stress than you need at this time.

Thank you all for reading this post, if you ever want to speak to someone, you can contact me on Instagram @PatrickMungovan or send me an email at ❤️

Start of my fitness journey

It’s that time of year again for me to start exercising and cutting out rubbish food. For those of you who know me, I usually go on about 4 diets a year with each one only lasting for a couple of days normally. The reason these diets don’t work for me are because once I start the diet, I stop eating everything that I would normally eat, and concentrate mostly on eggs, beans, fruit, and vegetables. I now realise that this is the wrong thing to do, and the trick is to cut out these bad foods one at a time instead of going crazy and giving them all up together.

Now I will admit, I’m not a big fan of exercise. To be very honest, I hate it! Even the thought of going exercising is enough for me to stay sitting on the couch eating a share bag of doritos 😂

The part that I find most important for anything is to get all the correct gear before you start! I started off by getting myself a triathlon watch(I know, it’s probably a waste). I bought the Garmin 920XT after getting recommendations from a couple of people I know in my local triathlon club. The main reason I got this watch is because it can track your swimming, and as I am a swimming instructor, I can spend a lot of time in the water! I like this watch because it connects to your phone via Bluetooth so you can keep records of how you are getting on, and it also shows you notifications such as new text messages, new snapchats, straight to your watch ⌚️

The only thing about this watch is that is it quite expensive! So far I’m loving this watch, and I am constantly checking it to see how many steps I have walked so far each day 😂

The next thing I had to get for my fitness journey was a nice pair of shoes. I have my wardrobe full of shoes at this stage, many of which are still in boxes! 😅 I decided to get these Nike runners, mostly because I liked the colour of them as they are very bright so they will stand out. The only thing I will say about getting new shoes is that you ‘break them in’ before setting off walking or running. I didn’t realise I had to do this the first time I used them and I came home with my two heels all cut and blistered. This caused me a lot of discomfort while walking around the house afterwards.

So anyways, back to the fitness part again, I downloaded an application to my phone called ‘MapMyRun’ which you can use if you do not have a watch to do it for you. This app uses your GPS location to find out where you start your walk from and shows you the route that you walked on a map, as shown below:

Day 1For my first walk, I went with a few friends to make it easier and the time goes a lot faster when you have someone to talk to, rather than walking alone. We set off on our hike with all the gear ready to go. We decided to take t handy for the first day, as I didn’t want to be getting any cramps or anything that would turn me off the idea of exercising again 😅 The walk took 55:21 minutes and we walked a distance of 5.43 kilometres. I know this was rather slow, but I was delighted for my first time walking this distance ever 😇

When I came home, i was staving. Instead of eating a bag of crisps, I decided I would cook scrambled eggs and baked beans as they are a lot healthier than anything else I would usually eat! I am going to continue this walk and try to walk a bit faster and a bit longer each day. If you would like to see more updates of my journey, you can follow me on Snapchat @patrickmungovan and we will work through this together 😊 You can let me know if you have any tips or suggestions 👍🏽

Day 2: The second day of my fitness journey went great. I had pasta for my dinner, no chocolate and no crisps. This was a huge success for me as I eat all these rubbish foods on a daily basis. I went for my walk again with friends. We did the same route as the previous day but just made it a small bit longer today. Today we walked 5.66 kilometres in 1:00:37 hours long. My feet were a bit sore today from the blisters I had on the backs of my heels, but nothing that a few plasters wouldn’t sort!