Coping With Grief

Hey guys, happy new year to everyone out there! Sorry I haven’t been writing much here recently, I really need to post more frequently.

I spoke about coping with grief on my Instagram story a few months ago and it was the most viewed story I’ve ever had! I received hundreds and hundreds of messages from people telling me their stories and the different ways they learnt to deal with grief after a loved one passed away.

I’ll list a few of them below, just to help anyone out there that may be struggling and always remember that time is a healer. It might not seem like it at the moment but over time it does make coping with grief a little easier. Having to deal with grief is one of the most difficult things we will go through in our lives, you will feel empty and there are a few things to help make it a little easier.

1. Talk to others – it is very important to talk to your family or friends and explain to them how you are feeling. Talk to them about your loss and sadness and although you won’t expect them to have answers, it will help to have someone to listen to. There are lots of support groups to contact if you feel like talking to s stranger about what’s going through your mind. ALWAYS talk to someone!

2. Keep a routine – make sure you look after yourself. It’s good to have a daily routine and it will avoid extra stress if you stick to this, just simple things like getting up in the morning and keep yourself busy. The busier you are, the less time you have to think about everything and avoid making major changes if possible.

3. Take some time to yourself – it’s important to remember that family members or friends may also be grieving at the sad loss and sometimes tempers can rise between each other and the stress levels are high, that’s why you should take some time out and just even go for a walk. Everyone needs their own space to think and simple things like walking, go for a drive, go to the cinema, can all help you coping with grief.

4. Cry – sometimes all you feel like you can do is cry and that’s normal. There has been lots of talk about this recently, especially when it comes to men! Always remember that it is not a weakness to cry and I find it hard to understand how people would even think that! It’s just like a valve, helping you release the thoughts in your head. It can feel good to let it all out and it’s always good to get it off your chest instead of holding it in which may build up more stress than you need at this time.

Thank you all for reading this post, if you ever want to speak to someone, you can contact me on Instagram @PatrickMungovan or send me an email at ❤️

My Twin And I

I have recently been looking through old pictures so I decided to put this blog post together! As most of you know, I had a twin brother Stephen who tragically passed away in October 2015, this is a little bit about myself and my twin brother Stephen and the lovely memories I have of him!

We were born on September 11th 1995, in Galway hospital, and raised near a small village called Quilty, in county Clare. I live in the countryside so we were well used of being out in the fields playing as kids! Stephen and I attended Annagh national school for 8 years where we met some of our best friends, some of which are still my best friends to this day! To be honest, we were never big fans of school, but always looked forward to meeting our friends everyday to have the craic and play football with.

This photo was taken the day of our fifth birthday, the same week we started in primary school. I still remember that day, I’ll never forget how uncomfortable the tie was! We went to secondary school in Spanish Point which we were also never big fans of! We loved going for the fun and laughs but not so much for the rest of it.

I have some great memories with Stephen, including hundreds of pictures of us doing different things and going different places. I think that it is so important to take photos, as you never know when it could be the last one you take of someone.

This was us as babies, look how cute we were! By the way, the flower is in the background, not stuck in my ear. Some of these pictures aren’t the best quality as it was before the days of iPhones and proper cameras.

I have two sisters, Majella & Jennifer. I have a brother Declan, I also had another brother Michael but he sadly passed away in the year 2000. My brother Declan and sisters mean the world to me, the youngest of my siblings was 13 when we were born, I’m sure they were fed up of babysitting us at times haha. Family and friends are the most important thing you can have in life, without them you have nothing in my own opinion.

This is a picture of myself, Stephen, Jennifer, and Majella at our first cousins wedding a few years ago.

The best memories I have of Stephen are when we went on our holidays. My parents always brought us to Lanzarote as kids and we loved it, we always got to meet other kids our own age and we enjoyed splashing around in the pool.

We got on great together, as with all siblings we had our arguments but we always just forgot about it five minutes later and moved on. Stephen was a trainee mechanic with Charlie Mc Enery who owns and runs a garage in Ennis, Clare. Stephen had always wanted to become a mechanic and always had a huge interest in cars. He used to change his car every few weeks, always trading them for a different type every time. Stephen absolutely adored his work with Charlie and all of the other lads in the garage. He got on great with them all and they treated him with great respect from the first day of his job.

This was often the inside of our house when he would come home from work with a new set of wheels for a car. Stephen was always messing around with cars and always adding extras to his own cars, tinted windows, spoilers, etc.

I’m so grateful for all the memories that we have together, I’ll never forget him and I always look at the pictures of the good times. We celebrated our birthday together every year, which was so special.

This picture was our 16th birthday.

For our 19th birthday, we requested a minion cake which we got, it tasted very nice and we got a great laugh out of it when we walked in the door.

One of the best holidays we had was going to California to visit our brother Declan who was living there at the time. We were 17 at the time and we went for 10 days accompanied by our sister Jennifer. It was the trip of a lifetime. We flew into San Francisco international airport, then we met up with Declan who hired a car and then drove us all the way down the coast as far as San Diego. We stopped in many places along the way, including Hollywood which was really cool. We went to visit Alcatraz prison which was nice to see but also a bit eery considering the circumstances. It was definitely one of my favourite trips and I will always cherish the memories of it. I have posted a few pictures from California below!

We also went to see a baseball game along with visiting the theme parks which were all great fun, apart from the roller coasters which we were terrified of!

Another great memory I have is of going to our debs. I brought my friend Aoife and Stephen brought Caoimhe. We had such a great day and night celebrating with our friends.

I have so many pictures to post on here but I could be here for a week writing this and still have so much to say. I will never forget my brother Stephen and all of the great times we had together. Life is hard without him, it still doesn’t seem real at times! I have the best family anyone could ever ask for and also the best friends which all keep me going! Life is tough, but I know that I have great people around me which make each day a little easier and my family are very close to each other which is great as we all stick together when times are tough!

Stephen will always be in our hearts and not a day goes by that I don’t think about him.

Myself and Stephen shared most of the same friends together so I will share a few photos of us with our friends to finish off this post. Thank you all for taking the time to read this ❤️

A bit about myself

So for my first blog post, I will tell you about myself and where I’m from. As you know, my name is Patrick Mungovan and I come from the countryside of county Clare. I am 21 years of age. I have always had a big interest in social media and computers since I was a young age. I spend most of my day on my phone scrolling through Facebook or sending pictures on Snapchat, I usually post a photo or two on instagram every now and then 😎 I love to snapchat, I use it constantly throughout my day. You can follow me on snapchat using my snapcode:

I am the youngest in my family. I have two older sisters Majella and Jennifer, and an older brother Declan. I also had a twin brother Stephen and an older brother Michael but unfortunately they have both passed away due to unrelated tragic accidents. I live with my parents, Danny and Geraldine who run our family owned business Quilty Holiday Cottages. My parents own 32 holiday homes along the wild Atlantic way. Our holiday homes are overlooking the Atlantic Ocean, with breathtaking views of the sea, without even having to leave the house! Spanish point is just across the bay.

I am a self employed swimming instructor and lifeguard. I work from home, in our private swimming pool which is based onsite at our holiday home complex. I work with my sister Jennifer and we teach swimming to the local kids and schools in the area. I enjoy my job, it’s great to see the kids looking so happy when they learn something new!

Thank you all for reading my first blog post and I already look forward to writing my next post!